Breakup is not just an end of a relationship, but it’s an end of confidence, love & bond. Breakup is never easy whether you or the other partner do it. It involves lots of depression, anxiety, grievance, hate, loneliness & pain. But somehow you need to get over it and move on in life.
There are many ways to move on in life, which we will discuss in this article. Always remember that when you do break up, there are many memories with your partner (good or bad) which don’t allow you to forget things. And unless you forget about it, moving on will seems to be impossible. Time & patience is necessary to come out of the situation. And if you think that patience is not working anymore, then you can take help from friends, family & professional counselor to feel better.
So let’s see together how we can get rid of those relationship memories and move on life.
1.Don’t stop your tears:
When a relationship ends, it takes all the love, care, affection & trust away for a while. And, then, it seems that the world has come to an end. So instead of hiding your tears, let your all pain flow with the tears. It’s better to allow yourself to grieve for a while, which helps in expressing yourself and save you from the situation of depression. Tears are a perfect way to throw all the negativity out of your life.
2. Don’t Chase on Social Media:
It’s a human tendency of checking up on another person’s life, especially when he is not around you. Don’t do that for the sake of your happiness. To get over a breakup, you should stop checking your ex profile on Facebook, Instagram, wats app, or e-mail. Just cut your ex from your life and avoid using social media for a while so that you don’t end up seeing your ex.
This practice is going to save you from that, which may happen when you see your ex happy.
3. Enjoy with your loved ones:
It’s is seen that after breakup a person use to cut themselves from the outside world and sit idle at home thinking about your ex. This practice is not going to help you; this way, you are going to make your life even more miserable. It’s your life, and nobody else is responsible for your happiness, so go out with your family or friends and enjoy life.
This way you can feel good about your life, and you will get to know that your life is good without your ex as well. Give time to those people who love you for what you are. Don’t stop your experience and enjoyment for someone who is not with you anymore.
4. Keep away painful memories:
There are a lot of memories attached to a relationship, be it a place, song, food, or gifts. Till the time you move on from your past relationship, try not to go to that place where you use to go with your ex. Avoid listening to romantic songs or looking at the gift given by your ex. If the gift is precious, then don’t throw it but don’t look at this for some time until you are ok.
Memorizing past time is good, but if that gives you pain, then it’s worth forgetting it. This way helps in keeping away those memories from your life, which will only provide you with pain at present. You can read my other blog on “How to be happy” to read in detail in about it.
5.Rebound after thinking twice:
It is mostly seen and heard that to get over a breakup, and people rebound into another relationship very soon. Most of the time, this doesn’t help because, for a new relationship, you need to involve in it mentally and physically both. If you are getting involved with another person just after a breakup, then it will be like carrying the load of another relationship where you are not present mentally.
Moving on in life is an excellent step to take, but it is advisable to wait for some time until you fully come out from your past relationship. Don’t be into a new connection to make your ex jealous or consoling yourself that you have moved on. By this, you are not only doing wrong with your new partner but also making fun of your emotions.
6.Take care of yourself:
Generally, in a relationship, you depend upon your partner to take care of you. Have you had your food, did you take medicines, are you ok? I am there for you; these are some talks which happens between a couple. But, depending upon another person for your happiness and care is not right. Whether you are with someone or not, you should always give yourself a big priority.
If you will not take care of yourself, then how will you care for others?
So, after a breakup you should do special care of yourself by doing things what you love, eating what is your favorite & hanging out with people with whom you feel protected. Take proper sleep, eat healthy food, stay fit, and exercise regularly. This way you will be able to find real you, and gradually you will see that you don’t need anyone for making you happy. Read more about “Taking care of yourself.”
This is a very normal thing that after a breakup you feel angry about being cheated or for the reason breakup happened. But as you cannot shout at your ex because that’s unethical and you are no more in contact, then keeping calm is the only option.
Try not to think about the bad that happened to you and keep your nerves relax. You can meditate, listen to music or go outside when these negative thoughts come into your mind. Getting angry is never a solution because you are going to make your life more miserable by doing this.
8. Remember the bad qualities of your ex:
Everyone has good and bad qualities both. But after a breakup think of the bad traits which your ex had and the reason why you broke up. This thinking will help you to move on in life and never look back at your past. If you remember the good qualities of your ex, then you end up calling him again or missing him badly.
As we are here to discuss “how to get over a breakup” so, you should make your mind to remember that what bad your ex had done with you. Why you wanted that person to go out of your life or vice versa?
9. Find of reasons that why you are better than your ex:
This may sound kiddish but believe me that this is going to help you to move on and get rid of memories. Find out the reasons why you are better than your ex, and you can get a better person in life.
This thinking will give you superior feeling, which helps a lot to feel better in this situation. This is a short term process until you are utterly ok because after that your mind starts working fine and you will be able to take practical decisions. But as the time of breakup is very crucial, and your heart works more than your mind than making yourself happy with these kiddish thoughts will not be wrong.
A breakup can cause due to several reasons, and one of the reasons can be cheating. So, due to anger for your ex, usually, you seek for revenge. But, this is a negative feeling which will ruin you first then your ex. Hate can never be a solution to getting over a breakup, but it will make your mental situation even more worst. In the process of taking revenge, you will never be able to come out of your relationship.
Guys, a relationship can be as beautiful as a flower but can become worst when both partners don’t take equal efforts to grow the same. So, be strong because life never stops for anyone. Your little efforts help you a lot to move on and be a good human being no matters what bad happened to you. You can read books like “The 30-Day Heartbreak Cure” or “Getting over Him.”
After workings in an MNC since ages, I noticed that I am not able to find my real happiness in spite of getting handsome salary every month. Then after baby, when I had no option, I became an accidental blogger and started writing on life issues and emotional traumas people go through in life. I realized that this is what I love to do, and that’s my passion. Like every woman, I also love makeup, shopping, and eating and have a YouTube channel where you can find me showing my hauls, makeup, and much more. Not to forget I love traveling as well and in short in love myself and happy go, lucky person.
Feel free to contact me if you have any life related issues or need any suggestions. Also, I am quiet good in telling which makeup product is good and which you should avoid so I can also help you with that.