In my opinion, difficult people are the one with whom you don’t feel comfortable, who show extra care on your face but always criticize you on your back, who find negative in all the things & who never value your inputs and think that they are master of all traits. Dealing with difficult people needs patience and tactics.
Who these difficult persons are and how they affect your life?
These people can be anyone from friends, relatives, husband, wife even sometimes parents or any office colleague as well. No person is bad but what makes them difficult is the difference of opinion, lack of understanding & most of the time our own inability to bear them.
These people affect our life in many ways because you have your set goals in life, your own dreams which you want to fulfill but these people somehow act as a hurdle in those dreams and goals. I explain this with certain examples for dealing with difficult people.
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Friends are normally very supportive but in some cases they can also be difficult. It happens when they start showing off on anything inspite of being real which makes you to rethink about your friendship because friendship is all about sharing things and be real to each other.
Although, parents are the only one who understand you the most even more than you. But, due to generation gap sometimes they can seems to be difficult in the eyes of children who are highly influenced by social media and friends.
In most cases relatives are difficult as they start comparing you with others growing up fast in life. You can never share your honest opinion with them because in most of the cases either they let you down or try to correct you with their own opinion. This is not wrong but we should respect each other’s opinion.
Office Colleague/ Boss:
We have a very competitive relationship with our Office colleagues and boss so there is always a chance that they seems very difficult to us. Being a competitor there is always a race going on between both the parties and most of the time they seems difficult to us.
How to deal with difficult people?
No matter what how much these people annoy you there is always a way to deal with them. The ways to deal with them may seems little difficult or unnatural but believe me using these tips and tricks you can achieve whatever you wish in life and can get out of any difficult situation or people to be precise.
1. Stay Calm:
Whenever we get angry we tend to take wrong decisions in the heat of the moment. Rather than jumping to a quick decision try to be calm, take a deep breath and take decision wisely. In this case, you will be able handle the situation diplomatically rather than emotionally which most of time fails.
2. Stop Reacting:
It is not necessary to react on everything. If something is teasing you and you are not happy to listen or bear a person but you have to then develop a quality of not reacting to a shit. By reacting to a shit you will be giving more importance to a person and making yourself more frustrated.
As I said that not everyone is bad, so there may be a case that the person whom you find difficult is going through a bad time which made him/her so negative in life. Try to be polite and listen to what he is saying, may be by doing that somehow you can help him/her in expressing their thoughts.
4. Stop Judging:
The English idiom “Never judge a book by its cover” which means one shouldn’t prejudge the worth or value of something by its outer appearance. If a person seems negative, talk bad about you, or always in a race to pull you down then try to understand the reason behind it. There must be a reason of such hatred.
If the situations is uncontrollable then ignoring things is a best thing to do. When we can’t change a situation or person than the best way to be happy is ignoring. We can’t keep everyone happy so instead of making efforts on someone else try to ignore things and concentrate on your goals. This is easiest and best way to deal with difficult people.
This point is specifically for parents in case due to generation gap or misunderstanding we feel that they are difficult. Parents can never think bad for their children but yes as they are experienced people so they are over possessive for their children and try to stop them from doing things which they feel is not safe or right. If you feel your parents doesn’t understand you then talking is the best therapy which both of you will love and feel relax as this is relationship with strong bond
7. Be proud of yourself for bearing an uncomfortable situation like a pro:
Not everyone is big hearted enough to bear an uncomfortable situation or a person who talks shit about you. Never forget to pat yourself in the back of your mind because you behaved so maturely.
8. Be Diplomatic:
Diplomacy is another synonym of ignoring. Instead of showing that you are not happy with the person standing in front of you behave diplomatically which shows that you are mature enough to handle worst situations.
9. Be Positive:
Sometimes being with negative people who always crib about everything in life you also become like them. If you are friends with these people then instead of listening to their negative talks you try to make them positive by talking about how beautiful life is. Think positive and thank god for what resources you have. Make a habit to read novels and books.
10. Look yourself & Rethink:
Last point but highly important because it is very important to look yourself and your own behavior before putting fingers on others. It may be possible that we are overacting on something because we are upset on some other problem in life and we misunderstood someone who is actually not as difficult as we think in our mind.
So friends, this is my personal thoughts about “How to dealing with difficult people” and the above pointers are something which I apply in my personal life as well. Try to be positive in life and think that nobody is bad even if someone is actually bad because this thought will always keep you motivated and happy even if how bad situation is around you.
If you have any suggestion on dealing with difficult people than please do comment and share your opinions, I will add that point as well 🙂
After workings in an MNC since ages, I noticed that I am not able to find my real happiness in spite of getting handsome salary every month. Then after baby, when I had no option, I became an accidental blogger and started writing on life issues and emotional traumas people go through in life. I realized that this is what I love to do, and that’s my passion. Like every woman, I also love makeup, shopping, and eating and have a YouTube channel where you can find me showing my hauls, makeup, and much more. Not to forget I love traveling as well and in short in love myself and happy go, lucky person.
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