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Impact of Divorce on Children

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Divorce is a life changing experience not only for a couple, but for the whole family. It’s a phase where parents are struggling through a difficult time and children have to suffer as they go through a lot of emotional trauma. “Life after divorce” can be different depending upon the reason of divorce and the financial stability of both husband and wife. Here, in this article we will discuss the impact of divorce on children.

If a person is going through a lot of physical violence and emotional stress then the decision of divorce can be a better option for kids in the long run. Leaving your partner is itself very difficult decision and thinking about how it will impact your kids is a matter of concern. Not all the kids get impacted by divorce in a negative way. Some recover very fast and others take some time to come out of the situation. It all depends upon the extra care and a feeling of security given to the kids.

It is very stressful phase where parents are concerned about their kids custody and kids are worried about leaving one of the parents. If the reason for divorce is the mere lack of understanding, then children may suffer a lot because each parent to have a special place in a child’s heart.

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What are some effects of divorce on children?

1. Poor Academic Performace:

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Divorce is disturbing for each member of the family, but child’s mind got impacted with it a lot. Kids are not so adaptable to changes in life and divorce is the biggest change they can ever think of. This biggest change in their family and day to day living impact their mind so much and they are not able to focus on their studies. For kids, it is very difficult to understand that their parents will not be together anymore. This situation makes them distracted from studies and confused at the same time on how to handle and correct it.

2. Difficulty in accepting changes:

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Children are less adaptable to changes and it is very difficult for them to be with only one parent. All of a sudden kids are flooded with changes like different school, lifestyle, family environment, friends, etc. This makes them very nervous and anxious.

3. They feel insecure:

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Both parents play a vital role in a kid’s life. They act like pillar which protect kids from all the danger. The feeling loosing one parent is itself very scary and it may reduce confidence in your kid. Your child may feel less insecure and lonely.

4. Health issues may increase: 

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Divorce may lead to many health problems in your child. This is a process of mental stress and struggle to rebuild a new family with your kid. In all these procedures, may go through a lot of mental stress, lack of sleep and depression. All this combined together can lead to illness and bad health condition among kids.

5. Negative Traits :

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It has been seen that a child who had experienced his parent’s divorce became negative and show destructive behavior. This may happen because of two reasons. First, being single parent, you are not able to give much time to your kid as you need to handle both finance and home. Secondly, being single you want to give that extra care and love to your child so that he won’t feel indifferent. Due to both situations a child may pick some negative traits like drugs or smoking.

6. Loosing faith in marriages:

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Divorce between parents in childhood can leave a very bad impact on a kid. Watching your parents getting separated from each other, and all those worst after effects of divorce can make your child loose trust in marriages. Children with divorced family background are likely to divorce in their own relationship as well as compared to the children from non-divorce background. This is because they have seen their parents struggling from life situations.

7. Anger and irritation:

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In some cases, it is found that the children from divorce background gets irritated and angry more often. They have low resistance power and capacity to deal with problems. They may show anger to their parents, friends, themselves and others. The reason of this anger can be there parents fights or loneliness they have borne after divorce.

8. Social Cut off: 

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Although, there is nothing to feel ashamed about divorce because leaving someone with whom you are not happy is not a crime. But, explaining kids about their parent’s separation is very difficult. This can be worse specially when their friends have both parents living happily and enjoying their lives. In some cases, children cut them off from society and friends because they feel ashamed of the fact that their parents are no more together. They started feeling insecure as according to them, their family is the only one who gotten divorced.

9. Kids become emotionally weak:

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Divorce is a big change for family and each an every individual suffers with a lot of emotional stress. Children being part of the family go through different emotions like anger, irritation, sorrow, confusion and anxiety. Due to all the changes happening in the family most of the children are not able to handle it and became emotionally weak. They became more sensitive as compared to the their friends.

10. Kids miss the other parent:

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This is one of the common thing which is seen in almost all the kids dealing with their parent’s divorce. When divorce happens the custody of the kids is given to one of the parents. But kids actually want to live with both parents in a normal way. This way they feel protected and safe. But, as this never happens in divorce so they have to live with either mother or father and miss the other one.

How can these impacts of divorce can be cured?

The above mentioned impacts of divorce can ruin a child in the long run. So, it is very necessary to take remedial action to get rid of it and making your child a good human being. Being a single parent sometimes it looks impossible to do so many multitasking for your child. But, you need to nourish your child with good sacraments to be a good example in front of society. So, here are a few points you can take care of while upbringing your child.

  • Give extra care and love to the little one without fulfilling unnecessary demands. Develop your child in such a way that he/she can accept “No” in life.
  • Make them independent by taking teeny-tiny help from them in household work. Keep their mind busy in some fun activities so that they don’t get time to think of any negative.
  • Do not share any negative talks with your child until he became mature enough to understand things properly.
  • Keep him away from people who can talk poisonous.
  • Teach your child spreading love and fighting for his rights simultaneously.
  • Give them some personal time while keeping an eye on what they are doing and in what company they are hanging out with.
  • Never deal with angry child with anger until the situation goes out of control. Try to calm them up and show them the right path.
  • Do not show love by loading them with money. Instead of money give them your time.
  • Behave like friends so that your child feel comfortable to share everything with you.

Children are very sensitive and emotional. They are not able to cope up with very big changes in the family. Love and support work like wonder to boost your child’s confidence and moving on from the difficult situations. You may also read books like “When they decided to MOVE ON!: A story of a child’s love for his parents“. Feel free to comment your thoughts about the same and if you have gone through the same situation, then how you managed to grow your child with good sacraments.

How to handle a Wife or a Husband

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Being a married woman, I can say that rather than thinking about how to handle a wife or a husband, which sounds like a burden you should think about understanding your spouse which looks more positive approach. To make a relationship beautiful it is very important to understand each other’s personality and accept the best and worst in both of you. I have written many articles on a relationship like “Relationship Goals” & “Life of a Single” so you might be interested in these topics. In this article, we will try to understand human behavior so that we can get to know the need of your spouse and their expectations. Also, we will discuss on how to build a harmonious relationship if one of the spouses is nagging in nature.

 

1. Make your partner feel beautiful:

DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE, DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE, Hope HapinessEveryone wants to be praised by their partner & specially woman want their husband to appreciate her on small things. It cost nothing if you take out 2 minutes time of your whole day to appreciate and show some romance to your better half. Every woman is beautiful in her own way and husband’s should find out the best thing they like in their wife.

Do not feel shy in praising her beauty and look into her eyes to show some love. These small steps work like a bridge for a healthy relationship. In a relationship both husband, wife works really hard and adjust at every stage of life. So, some sweet words from your spouse works as a booster. It gives you the power to ignore some bad things which you don’t like in her/him.

2. No Comparison Please:

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You must have seen a few couples in public which you may consider as “Perfect Couple”. But, there are no such words as the perfect couple in my opinion. They seem to be perfect because they have accepted each other’s flaws and respect their decisions. Also, if after watching them you feel that your relationship doesn’t match with them at all. Then, I would say that every relationship is different and no relationship or person should be compared with each other.

There may be times when in anger you compare your wife with your friend’s wife. But, you should never forget that each person has different skill set. So, if you are comparing your wife on the basis of cooking skills with another woman. Then, there may be the case that your wife is better in some other skill set where that woman is a failure. By doing this you are just growing a seed of jealousy, which is a negative feeling. And don’t forget that you can also be compared to other man around which is obviously not a good feeling at all.

3. Mind your words:

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Sometimes we become very harsh in our words while we are angry. It is very difficult to control your anger specially for the people who are short tempered. We tend to show our anger by abusing someone or using harsh words which will hurt the other person for whom it is said. If you are seeking for a healthy and good relationship with your spouse, then instead of being loud you should try to avoid the situation. And, once your mind calm down, then you should talk about the issue with your spouse because at that point your brain is cool enough to listen to the other side of the story.

“Anger doesn’t solve anything. It builds nothing, but it can destroy everything”

4. Understand one’s personality:

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If you want to have a strong bond with your spouse, it is very necessary to deeply know each other’s personality. If we will take an example of a wife than you need to know her likes, dislikes, nature, so that you will have an idea that what are the topics which she is not interested in. And, how to tackle her when she is angry. Some people want to be alone in anger, however, others want special attention and pampering. You have to behave according to your spouse liking to some extent to build that special place in each other’s heart.

5. Celebrate every small occasions:

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Celebration is necessary not only to pamper your spouse but also for you own inner soul. We should not wait for big occasions to come because there are only few big events in life. In fact, you should live every moment as a big event. This is going to make your life bit easier and different from the daily routine work.

This is a process of making life more enjoyable and added special moments with each other which is unforgettable. For example, women’s love surprises which is not necessarily an expensive one. So, surprise her by showing how much you love her in the form of a flower or a card etc. Slowly, you will notice that you both will have so many special moments in life which will overlap the bad times and flaws within you.

6. Do not stretch the conflict:

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Conflict is an integral part of a relationship. It’s very obvious that if two people are living together then they will disagree on few topics. There may be times when conflicts can heat up a lot and turn into big fights. But, to live a peaceful life you should avoid stretching these disagreements for long to avoid fights. In my opinion, a couple should try to solve the matter ASAP by having discussion on the same. If one’s ego is coming forward the other spouse should keep his/her ego apart and talk on the issue. This will ensure that you never extend the issue to a worst level and all the possibilities of big fights can be avoided.

7. Avoid Arguments:

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As I always say that arguments are necessary for a relationship. In this way you will be able to throw out some negativity out of your mind instead of pilling up everything since years and burst out one day. But, unnecessary arguments or disagreement on everything is very harmful for a marriage alliance.

An argument is considered to be healthy when it is of short term and the duration is once in a month. If, the argument in your relationship is very frequent then you should think about the reason of it. And, if you and your spouse disagree on most of the topics then avoiding those topics will be the best solution. For example, If you wants holiday in Paris however, your husband wants to go to Melbourne then, instead of arguing on this topic you should find out a place where both of you wants to go together. After all, more than the place of holiday your companion matters a lot.

8. Help each other:

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A marriage relationship is a strong bond created by destiny and one should keep putting efforts to make it even stronger. We are humans and we tend to get tired physically and mentally both. It’s a responsibility of your spouse (better half) to share both good and bad times with you. Both partners should find ways to help his/her spouse in daily activities. For example, A husband should helps his wife in some household work or if he is too busy then he can give some break to his wife by occasionally cooking. Same way a wife should also share her husband’s burden of earning alone and do some part time work to contribute in house expenses. This way you both will be able to value each other and respect will increase.

9. Communicate better:

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There are times when we tend to walk away from the hot conversation just to calm yourself down. But, sometime walking away work as adding fuel to fire. When argument and fight is on peak then leaving the conversation and walk off can make it even worst. You need to answer your unsatisfied spouse just to make her calm and feel that at least you listen to her. Talking on a problem and giving your spouse an assurance that you are with her and understand her can vanish the issue instantly.

10. Visit Counsellor:

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If you have done all the efforts to fix the problem but still nothing has changed then visiting counsellor is the best you can do. There are the situations which we do not take the advice of our loved ones too seriously however, if the same thing is said by outsider then it meant a lot beneficial. So, taking professional advice will be the best and unbiased. A professional can listen both point of view and the actual problems in the relationship and will give an unbiased decision.

You may also be interested in “Wife Management – How To Handle Your Wife” by Jha Kashinath.

Also, if you are dealing with relationship issues you may read my other articles like relationship goals, Taking care of yourself or dealing with depression which can help you in some way to solve your problems and take wise decision. Feel free to contact me for any consultation as well, I will try to give you best solution possible.

Exercise and Depression

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Exercise and Depression may seem two non-integrated words. But, they are so much connected that exercise can work as a natural treatment to cure depression. In my previous article I had explained about “Dealing with Depression” which you can read to know about depression in detail. But, here in this article we will discuss how doing physical exercise can change the way you think and make you a positive person. Most of the adults all over the world are struggling with depression. And the most common way they choose to cure it is anti-depressant medicine.If the problem is big and out of control, then one can take medicine to cure this issue. But, if you have the passion and zeal to cure this then you don’t require to be dependent on pills which has some side-effects as well.

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Is working out good for depression?

Exercise is something which is beneficial for depression. Also, it leads to many other health benefits like better sleeping cycle, controlling diabetes & blood sugar level, protection against heart diseases, maintaining weight and much more. When you do high intensity exercise your body release a chemical which is called “endorphins”. It helps in generating a feeling of euphoria which is a feeling of excitement and happiness. However, doing low intensity exercise will help the growth of nerve cells in “hippocampus”. It is a region in the brain which regulates mood which leads to reduce depression.

How do I start exercising with depression?

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Depression is a stage where a person feels highly demotivated and low on energy. There are many physical changes which occur in the body at the time of depression. The changes are like loss of sleep, low energy, Demotivation, disturbed eating habits, headache and body pain etc. With such physical issues most of the time it is very difficult to push your body and convince it to do work out. But, you should try to convince yourself to start with 10 minutes walk & then slowly increasing this routine to swift walk. Then increasing it to 20-30 minutes of heavy work out. This process will not only help you to come out of your bed. But, also through regular workout you will positive changes in your body and a sense of confidence.

What exercise is best for anxiety?

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According to the study, all the exercises are good for controlling depression. But, there are few which helps pumping the heart rate are the most effective one. Few examples of the exercise which help in controlling depression are:

  • Biking
  • Running
  • Swimming
  • Swift Walk
  • Dancing
  • Tennis

Out of all the physical activities mentioned above dancing is the most therapeutic way of reducing depression. Music is something which automatically calms you down and dancing to your favorite music can instantly uplift your mood. You can also read books like “How to Cure Depression and Anxiety to have detailed knowledge about it. 

How to get started?

There are few steps which can help in starting any exercise schedule and keep yourself motivated throughout the workout.

  1. Take Professional Advice: Before starting any exercise it is advisable to take your doctor’s advice at the time of depression. As, a doctor can guide you that which exercise is feasible and what should be the intensity of it. Also, he will consider the medicine, which you are taking to help you out that which work out schedule will be best for you.

  2. Choose what you enjoy: If you are not an exercise person then choose any physical activity which relaxes you and you thoroughly enjoy. For example, most of the people prefer a swift walk in parks and other prefer dancing as a mode of exercise. So, our main motive here is to relax your mind and keep you fit no matter what way you choose to keep yourself active.
  3. Set your goals: Set realistic goals for everyday which will help you to achieve a set target. It is not necessary that you will be able to reach that goal every time. But, try hard to reach that to avoid any Demotivation.
  4. Analyse Barriers: If you don’t feel like doing exercise or something is stopping you from being physically fit than try to find out the reason behind it. If you feel shy of working out in public then either hire a personal trainer at home or take help of internet to get the guidance. If you perform better with a partner than find someone like your friend, spouse or neighbor to join you in your workout. Analyze the issue and fix it.

After all the above points we discussed in this article, if you still feel that exercise is not helping you much in coming out of depression than consult a doctor. Doctor may advice you psychotherapy or add some more dose of your medicines to keep you calm and relax. But, still I will recommend to add an exercising routine in your daily life to keep you fit and healthy. 

What is Happiness in Life

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Happiness is a feeling which is desired by each one of us. It’s an emotion of joy from within, which makes everything so positive and enjoyable. If you will ask anyone from any origin that, what, do you want for your loved ones? Then, the answer will be “Happiness.”

But why happiness is so important in life than money, food, car or house?

That’s because, if you are happy then money and success are worth it and you can fully enjoy every penny of it. But, an unhappy person cannot enjoy these luxuries as you can’t buy happiness with dollars.

You must have seen many rich personalities with a huge bank balance but still depressed about something. Happiness is not materialistic, and if you think that buying a car will make you happy, then it’s a myth. It’s just lust and passion, and when that car becomes old, you will search for happiness in other things.

Happiness in life does not depend on anything; it’s an ongoing feeling. Let’s see “what is happiness in life” and how to find the same.

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1. Follow your Passion

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Doing what you love whenever you get a chance is going to give you happiness. Everyone has a different passion, and you should follow that in your life. If you like to travel, then find ways to visit every season. Not everyone is lucky enough to get to do things of their choice to embrace that if you can do it.

2. Keep optimistic Approach

The way we take a situation also matters a lot. Keeping an optimistic view helps in making your mind positive and dealing with every adverse situation with grace and patience. Unfortunate happens to everyone, but the optimistic point of views drag you out of that lousy situation more efficiently and is a reason for long term happiness. You may also read my other article on “How to be Happy“.

3. Take charge

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Blaming others for your problems is very easy, but taking charge of your mistake is difficult. Well said by someone that “it takes two to tango.” When we are in a problematic situation, we always blame others or the case for the same. But, once you will become bold enough to accept your mistake, then “success” will touch your feet.

4. Do something productive

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Being busy in life is very important for not thinking about shit because “An idle mind is a devil’s workshop. As per the study, people who stay busy are happier than the people sitting idle doing nothing. Whether you are working or unemployed, you should keep yourself working in the activities which include the use of mind and body both. Sitting idle for a long time can be depressing.

5. Choose friends wisely

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I know friendship is a heart to heart connection, but off course you want a friend who can cheer you up rather than always been depressing. So, choose your friends wisely and be with people who have a positive approach to life. This will benefit you in the long term because our company matters a lot for making us what we are.

6. Forgive

Forgiveness is a potent tool to be happy. It takes a lot of strength and positivity to forgive someone. If you know how to forgive others, then you are on the right path to get long term happiness in life. You may also read books on “Forgive and Let Go.

7. Accept changes in life

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You must have experienced this in your life as well that life is not the same. As you grow old, life shows you different colors with more responsibilities and struggle. Duties of your kids, family, and struggle to earn handsome money, maintain good health, and so on. You should be adaptable to the changes in life and when life gives you lemons, make lemonade and enjoy. In short, a happy person adapts these changes and move on.

8. Set Goals

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If you have a dream since childhood which you want to fulfill, then, in spite of dreaming about it, find ways to achieve it. Set small goals in life to achieve that big goal in your life. With each achievement, you will be a happier and satisfied person.

9. Honor your values

Everyone has that instinct about what is wrong and what is the right thing to do. Follow your intuition and do what is right and fair. Take unbiased decisions in life, which will make your soul proud, and you will feel satisfied with yourself and your choices. Set some values in life and stick to that.

10. Give Respect and Love

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Learn the power of giving without expecting much from life. We human expect a lot which is the biggest reason for our sadness and dissatisfaction. Give respect to all and spread the love around you and believe me, you will get the same love and respect from others. Do things without expectations.

If you make little changes in your life, then you end up finding long term happiness. Be satisfied with what you have and be thankful to God for whatever he has given to you. Life is never perfect, but with our little efforts, we can make ourselves so strong to face all the hard time life gives us.

Please share your stories with me and feel free to drop your issues you want me to answer. I will try to provide you the best solution ever.

How to feel better

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There are occasions in everybody’s life that you feel low and miserable at the same time. But not everyone has the art to come out of that situation quickly. More you think about the worst, and your life becomes more dramatic and problematic.

You must have seen people who forget the problems quickly and move on. This approach is vital for mental peace and focusing on more critical issues in life.

Successful people know the trick to ditch negative thoughts from the mind. And through this article, you will also know some skills to get rid of bad feelings.

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1.Grieve:

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These can be days when you are feeling exceptionally worst about something. So save your tears for those days and cry till all the negativity comes out of your heart. Crying works as therapy sometimes so lighten your heart and feel better.

2. Listen to the music:

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Listening to your favorite music, and occasionally loud music helps in cheering up your mood. I find rock music best to make me positive.

3. Remembering beautiful moments:

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Life is not the same. Sometimes it’s beautiful, and sometimes it shows us a tough time. But, remembering beautiful moments in your tough time gives you the strength to fight with the challenges and problems.You can always read my blog on How to be happy.”

4. Watch your childhood photos:

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There is an only hand full of people with a bad childhood. Everyone has those crazy memories of childhood, which brings a smile to our faces. Search for your childhood album and watch them while remembering those moments you lived.

5. Cook what you like:

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Cooking is an excellent way to ditch your mind which is behaving crazy. Make food which satisfies your craving and you haven’t had since long. Doing good things for yourself is not a crime, so honey, break all the rules and live your life.

6. Go for a walk:

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Believe me, this works like magic. There are times when you don’t have anyone nearby to console you. Go nearby nature and try to give yourself some alone time. Surrounded by loved ones doesn’t help every time.

7. Read:

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Reading your favorite books not only keep you busy but also distract your mind from that negative feeling. Books are our best friends, and reading motivational books keep you positive in life. You can read book like “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living“.

8. Go for a movie:

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Our main motive is to pass on that bad feeling anyhow. Book a ticket of your favorite movie and spend those 3 hours munching popcorn and cold drink. Avoid thinking about evil, and enjoy the moment.

9. Talk to your friend:

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There is one best friend in everybody lives who gives you the strength and makes you feel that you are not alone. Talking to a friend vanish half to the issue because sadness reduces on sharing with others.

10. Go for a mini vacation:

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When you are sad, try to get out of your routine life and do something else. You can stay at your friend’s place, go out for a party or can plan a mini weekend trip to freshen up your mind.

11. Help others:

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Helping people in need should be an ongoing activity. But you should surely do it when you are not feeling good. When you see that smile and gratitude on their faces, you feel satisfied and happy at the same time.

12. Do physical work:

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Instead of lying down in bed when you are sad, do physical works like dancing, exercise, or walk. This will make your body tired, and you will get a good sleep.

13. Look good:

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I know that you don’t feel like dressing up when you feel bad. But, take some efforts and do a little bit of makeup and go out for a coffee. Problems cannot vanish, but we can make some efforts to reduce it.

14. Play with your baby:

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If you are a mother, then I suggest you become a child with your little one. Maturity sometimes sucks. So, behave like a child, play with your infant, dance with him. This works as a therapy and relaxes your mind.

15. Sit with your partner:

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If the reason for your problem is not due to fighting with your partner, then sitting with him will relax your mind. Your partner can be your best friend and a person on whom you can rely. Share your feelings with him.

16. Think of the things for which you’re grateful to god:

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There are few things in everyone’s life for which we are thankful to god. So, when you are feeling low, just count those things which are very precious to you, and you are proud of having it.

There are several excuses for not doing the things mentioned above. But, not to worry about its human nature and when we feel sad, we don’t tend to take any efforts to feel better. Pushing yourself is the only solution. I hope through this article you must be able to relate your situation with the above points mentioned.

Feel free to drop your comments on what you do to cheer up your mood. I would love to read that.

Getting over a breakup

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Breakup is not just an end of a relationship, but it’s an end of confidence, love & bond. Breakup is never easy whether you or the other partner do it. It involves lots of depression, anxiety, grievance, hate, loneliness & pain. But somehow you need to get over it and move on in life.

There are many ways to move on in life, which we will discuss in this article. Always remember that when you do break up, there are many memories with your partner (good or bad) which don’t allow you to forget things. And unless you forget about it, moving on will seems to be impossible. Time & patience is necessary to come out of the situation. And if you think that patience is not working anymore, then you can take help from friends, family & professional counselor to feel better.

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So let’s see together how we can get rid of those relationship memories and move on life.

1.Don’t stop your tears:

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When a relationship ends, it takes all the love, care, affection & trust away for a while. And, then, it seems that the world has come to an end. So instead of hiding your tears, let your all pain flow with the tears. It’s better to allow yourself to grieve for a while, which helps in expressing yourself and save you from the situation of depression. Tears are a perfect way to throw all the negativity out of your life.

2. Don’t Chase on Social Media:

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It’s a human tendency of checking up on another person’s life, especially when he is not around you.  Don’t do that for the sake of your happiness. To get over a breakup, you should stop checking your ex profile on Facebook, Instagram, wats app, or e-mail. Just cut your ex from your life and avoid using  social media for a while so that you don’t end up seeing your ex.

This practice is going to save you from that, which may happen when you see your ex happy.

3. Enjoy with your loved ones:

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It’s is seen that after breakup a person use to cut themselves from the outside world and sit idle at home thinking about your ex. This practice is not going to help you; this way, you are going to make your life even more miserable. It’s your life, and nobody else is responsible for your happiness, so go out with your family or friends and enjoy life.

This way you can feel good about your life, and you will get to know that your life is good without your ex as well. Give time to those people who love you for what you are. Don’t stop your experience and enjoyment for someone who is not with you anymore.

4. Keep away painful memories:

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There are a lot of memories attached to a relationship, be it a place, song, food, or gifts. Till the time you move on from your past relationship, try not to go to that place where you use to go with your ex. Avoid listening to romantic songs or looking at the gift given by your ex. If the gift is precious, then don’t throw it but don’t look at this for some time until you are ok.

Memorizing past time is good, but if that gives you pain, then it’s worth forgetting it. This way helps in keeping away those memories from your life, which will only provide you with pain at present. You can read my other blog on “How to be happy” to read in detail in about it.

5.Rebound after thinking twice:

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It is mostly seen and heard that to get over a breakup, and people rebound into another relationship very soon. Most of the time, this doesn’t help because, for a new relationship, you need to involve in it mentally and physically both. If you are getting involved with another person just after a breakup, then it will be like carrying the load of another relationship where you are not present mentally.

Moving on in life is an excellent step to take, but it is advisable to wait for some time until you fully come out from your past relationship. Don’t be into a new connection to make your ex jealous or consoling yourself that you have moved on. By this, you are not only doing wrong with your new partner but also making fun of your emotions.

6.Take care of yourself:

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Generally, in a relationship, you depend upon your partner to take care of you. Have you had your food, did you take medicines, are you ok? I am there for you; these are some talks which happens between a couple. But, depending upon another person for your happiness and care is not right. Whether you are with someone or not, you should always give yourself a big priority.

If you will not take care of yourself, then how will you care for others?

So, after a breakup you should do special care of yourself by doing things what you love, eating what is your favorite & hanging out with people with whom you feel protected. Take proper sleep, eat healthy food, stay fit, and exercise regularly. This way you will be able to find real you, and gradually you will see that you don’t need anyone for making you happy. Read more about “Taking care of yourself.”

7.Calm yourself:

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This is a very normal thing that after a breakup you feel angry about being cheated or for the reason breakup happened. But as you cannot shout at your ex because that’s unethical and you are no more in contact, then keeping calm is the only option.

Try not to think about the bad that happened to you and keep your nerves relax. You can meditate, listen to music or go outside when these negative thoughts come into your mind. Getting angry is never a solution because you are going to make your life more miserable by doing this.

8. Remember the bad qualities of your ex:

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Everyone has good and bad qualities both. But after a breakup think of the bad traits which your ex had and the reason why you broke up. This thinking will help you to move on in life and never look back at your past. If you remember the good qualities of your ex, then you end up calling him again or missing him badly.

As we are here to discuss “how to get over a breakup” so, you should make your mind to remember that what bad your ex had done with you. Why you wanted that person to go out of your life or vice versa?

9. Find of reasons that why you are better than your ex:

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This may sound kiddish but believe me that this is going to help you to move on and get rid of memories. Find out the reasons why you are better than your ex, and you can get a better person in life.

This thinking will give you superior feeling, which helps a lot to feel better in this situation. This is a short term process until you are utterly ok because after that your mind starts working fine and you will be able to take practical decisions. But as the time of breakup is very crucial, and your heart works more than your mind than making yourself happy with these kiddish thoughts will not be wrong.

10. Revenge:

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A breakup can cause due to several reasons, and one of the reasons can be cheating. So, due to anger for your ex, usually, you seek for revenge. But, this is a negative feeling which will ruin you first then your ex. Hate can never be a solution to getting over a breakup, but it will make your mental situation even more worst. In the process of taking revenge, you will never be able to come out of your relationship.

Guys, a relationship can be as beautiful as a flower but can become worst when both partners don’t take equal efforts to grow the same. So, be strong because life never stops for anyone. Your little efforts help you a lot to move on and be a good human being no matters what bad happened to you. You can read books like “The 30-Day Heartbreak Cure” or “Getting over Him.”

    Relationship Goals

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    “The best feeling in the world is knowing that you actually mean something to someone”

    As a human being, we all wanted to love and be loved. Love is a beautiful feeling which one could have because true love and relationships are tough to achieve. Every relationship is unique, whether you are newly married or dating someone since long. Knowingly or unknowingly, we all follow relationship goals, which help us to boost our relationship.

    Nobody can teach you how you can make your partner feel special because you know better what he likes. But, there are few practices which you can follow in your relationship which can give a boost to it and make your relationship stronger. As everyone is different so there may be chances that few tips will not work for you but as you move deep into that relationship you can find yourself perfect in dealing with the problems.

    No relation is perfect and to get that perfection a couple has to go through a lot in their life. A relationship has many phases. The initial stage is charming and has a lot of excitement in it. Then, a period comes where a couple has to deal with many families, interest, & responsibility issues. Gold also have to go through a lot of refinery process, which makes it so valuable and precious. Same as relationship also have to go through a lot of difficulties to build a strong bond which is forever.

    Let’s discuss ten relationship goals tips which can make your bonding stronger.

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    Understanding is the key:

    It is not necessary that every word or feelings need to be expressed. There may be a time when one partner is feeling low or not in a mood to talk, and another partner needs to understand by their body language or experience. Understanding is the crucial factor which helps in making any relationship stronger. When a relationship gets aged, many responsibilities come with it, and it became more than just making love and having sex. At that point, it is possible that due to frustration or lack of words your partner may not be able to understand you. But, as the relationship grows, understanding comes automatically.

    To build an understanding with your partner, try to speak and discuss day to day life. Express your feelings and try to look what your partner is expecting fro you at the moment.

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    Don’t stretch on Arguments  

    There is no relationship without arguments. As different individuals, situations arise when thinking does not match with each other, which leads to arguments. But make sure that you don’t go to bed without solving the same. By this practice, you can solve your issues more quickly and sleep with a free head without worries. But yes, if the issue is big and you need time to cool down, then surely take your time. Try to solve the problems with a cooler head and talk on your issues with each other effectively. Rather than shouting and showing anger, try to explain your point of view with patience and low pitch. This will help in making other people understand you more effectively.

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    Communicate & chit-chat 

    Communicating with your partner is integral for a strong bond in a relationship. Make sure to communicate daily face to face and share your feelings and daily routine, and this will help in building a strong bond and an emotional connection with your partner. When you share your opinions and understand others feel it is going to boost your relationship.

    Communicating is one of the relationship goals which you cannot ignore.

    Talking is integral to solve half of the issues. When we don’t express our feelings, whether it is good or bad, it tends to hit our mind and create misunderstanding. But proper communication between couples makes their relationship strong & builds understanding between them.

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    Give some space

    Giving space may sound a little weird, but the fact is that giving space to your partner and taking space for what you love is essential. Life before and after the relationship is different, and each phase has its beautiful moments to cherish. There may be times when you can miss hanging out with friends and go for a friend’s night out. And, when your partner does not allow you to do that, then you can feel suffocated been into such a relationship.

    Giving that space not always leads to differences in a relationship. But, most of the times, such space is required and that “Me time” is needed very badly to free some vacuum of that relation. Personal time is a must where you can do what you like, follow your passion, and chill out with friends. “You time” helps you knowing yourself better and self-love. After all, you can give love to others only if you are happy.

    A bit of personal space and little time our from each other is always healthy for a relationship to work and last.

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    Intimate with your partner:

    A healthy intimate life is integral for a stronger bond between couples. Couples should intimate at least once in a week because intimating bring them closer emotionally & mentally as well. Nowadays, life became so busy that sometimes due to tiredness or lack of time a couple is not able to come closer to each other. This can cause lack of interest between them.

    One of the relationship goals is intimacy, which may sound as regular life routine but have a significant impact on a relationship. Sex is a human need, and if the sex life is exciting, then a relationship has more satisfaction and understanding. There may be times when sex life became boring due to a busy schedule, but a couple should work on making it work.

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    Do Fun Activities:

    Even after few years of relationship, couple can have fun and do activities like water sports or other indoor games. These activities not only helps in giving that break from the daily schedule but also act as a refreshment in the relationship. Let that child in you come out and sometime behaving like a kid makes couple bond even stronger.

    Behaving mature every time can be boring so even if you are in your late 40′ choose fun activities which both you and your partner like. Believe me, you will love doing it as it just add few special moments with your partner which you can cherish later.

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    Prioritize your relationship:

    Life became so busy and we all are running after either having on the top position and increasing our bank balance. But, in this race some times we leave our relationship behind & when we look back its too late. So, earning bread and butter is important but take your relationship hand in hand. Take our time for your partner by making sudden date plan, it boost that excitement. You should be available when your partner needs you either physically or on call.

    Prioritizing your relationship not only make your bond stronger but also you both have that kind of trust within you that the other person is with me.

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    Accept Changes:

    Changes are the part of life and life is not the same every time. To set relationship goals one should be acceptable to the changes in life. There are many phase in human life which slowly and gradually change them as a person. Some phases leads to positive change and other leads to negative change. When you decide to be in a relationship and accept other person as your partner, it is very important that you can accept their negative and positive aspects as well.

    For example, a person cannot always look and feel happy. There are many issues in life which are related to health, office, finance and so on. So, instead of expecting a happy go lucky person in your partner try to accept there downs as well. This leads to make you love unbreakable and your relationship will be like a strong pillar.

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    Be Honest:

    Honesty is one of the relationship goals which act as an adhesive for your relationship. Honesty here means purity in your thoughts, not being dis-honest, telling the truth, saying what’s there in your mind. Don’t tell lie to your partner in any circumstance because if your love is true and your partner trust you then any lie will work as a poison in your relationship.

    It takes a long time to build a strong bond but seconds to break it. So, be honest and say truth even if it is bitter.

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    Help each other grow:

    Relationship is all about loving and helping each other in day to day life. A strong bond is one which help each other to grow better in life. Growing better in terms of what you are as a person, dedication towards work and home both and loving what you have. There may be times that one partner can get distracted from their life goals then its a duty of other partner to show the right path.

    Men and women both should be given equal chance and opportunities to work and show the required amount of dedication for work and home both. After marriage it is expected that a woman should do household work however, her interest and passion is office work. A best relationship is one who understand each other’s passion and support them to work on it. You can also read my blog on life after marriage to know more about it.

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    I hope I am able to out some light on the “relationship goals” which is not as difficult to achieve. You just need some dedication and lots of love for your partner and you are sorted. Love should not come with any condition or rule book but a little but of efforts and care can make any relationship stronger. You can read more about it from here.

    Life of a Single

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    Being single is not such an easy job. An individual needs to be strong enough to handle all ups and downs of their own. The society in which we live is not open-minded for life of a single to accept a person without marriage or a relationship. A person once entered teenage life is expected to have a relationship. After crossing the age of 18, he/she is expected to prepare for marriage mentally or to get married.

    Is the life of a single bad? Is that full of loneliness & depression? Or it is another way around?

    There may be circumstances when the other person is not able to fulfill your expectations. This leads to disappointment & dissatisfaction from life. As a human being, we always love what’s there in other’s plate. But in reality, everyone is dealing with their problems and life issues. While talking to many people, I realized that now most of the people don’t want to be in a relationship. And, this is becoming a new trend in our society.

     

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    1. Fly like a free bird:

    Do whatever the hell you want to do. Craving for pizza at midnight? Order that and eat as much as you want without someone taunting Oh baby!!!! Don’t eat so much you will be out of shape!!

    Go for a trip with your friends without even thinking about the responsibilities a relationship required as you are single. Watch “Game of Thrones” like a king with a tub full of popcorn. And, nobody is going to snatch the remote from you to watch a cricket series.DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE, DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE, Hope HapinessDEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE, DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE, Hope HapinessDEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE, DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE, Hope Hapiness

    In short, a single person enjoys more freedom as compared to a person in a relationship. In the workplace also, a single person can be more dedicated and work for long hours.This is because his main concentration will be his work as no one is waiting for him at home for coffee. This may sound very lonely, but believe me, it gives you more space for yourself.

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    2. Meeting new people:

    I have seen that a person who already is into a relationship have some limitations which make them hesitated to talk to new and unique people around them. You can experiment with life because after all, you are not going to be committed in a relationship. So, try many online dating sites which can be fun as you meet new people with a different mindset and different liking.

    As you are single, so doing a casual chit chat over facebook or Tinder can never be harmful. Enjoy life and make new experiences.

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    3. You are king of your life:

    No matter what are the cons of being single, but nobody can deny the fact that everyone wants there life in their control. As an individual, you are the king of your life and decision maker of all the big and small decisions. You are the one who will decide that what needs to be cooked, how to spend money, how much to save, and what to spend, & no one is going to question you for that.

    If you are a single mother then “Life after Divorce” must be going difficult with kids, but non the less you should be happy about being the head of the family and taking all the right decisions for your loved ones.

    You should give time to pamper yourself, go for a spa, watch movies, eat what you like, and take the right decision for yourself.

    4. Shower love on yourself:

    One of the best thing which being single can add on to your life is loving yourself. When we are in a relationship, our all focus turn to a single person and we always think about making our partner happy by doing things which he/she likes, that’s because we love our partner. But, what happen if we are single? You can focus on the things you like, make yourself happy, love yourself as the most important thing to be happy and satisfied in life is to love yourself first and then to others.

    5. No help in household work:

    That’s a big con of being single; You have to do all the household work from buying groceries to cleaning kitchen and home all by yourself. Off-course you can hire a house helper, but house helper cannot do all the household work which your partner can do. That’s the time when you can miss having a partner in your life when you get tired of doing everything all alone and want some support. But, this need for help is for short term because, in the long run, you will enjoy the benefits of being single.

     

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    6. Happy couples can make you jealous:

    When you are single, you may avoid going to social events because of the pressure of society to get married. Also, when you see happy couples, you might feel offended and jealous because you will miss that part of your life. It is a human tendency that whenever we don’t have any particular thing in life, we miss it and once we get it, we don’t value it.

    Likewise, watching a happy couple in front of you can be a tacky moment for you as it will remind you of what you don’t have instead of thinking what comfortable life you are living being single.

     

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    7. Less Drama in your life:

    Have you had your food? What are you wearing baby? Do you love me? You don’t have time for me now??

    Ahhh!!! Too much of drama, who ask so many questions and that also these bullshit one?

    If you are in a relationship, then you must be pissed off hearing this kind of cheesy questions. I prefer being single because I am not answerable to anyone. Love doesn’t need to be answered in words; it is shown through your body language, activities & care when you need your partner. So, congrats you singles you are not answerable to anyone.

    8. You became a stronger person:

    Do it all alone: Grocery shopping, cooking, gardening, office job, cleaning & other days to day activities. You are managing your house finance and looking after the house with so much balance in your life. Doing all this in itself is a challenging task, and once you do it, the situation makes you way stronger than you are.

    You are handling 100% duties with no financial help, which give you a feeling of strength that you can feel everything all alone.

    9. Control on emotional and sexual needs:

    You don’t have a shoulder to cry on or share your problems. You will not have a partner 24*7 who can fulfill your sexual needs. So, you need to keep control of your emotions at times.

    Keeping control on emotional needs is not easy, but once you become a master in it, you don’t require anyone in your life.

    10. You don’t have companion of traveling:

    If you have good friends or you are a solo traveler, then this point is a total waste for you. But, when nobody is around you or all your friends are married, then you have no option left either sitting at home or become a solo traveler.

    I have seen most of the people who travel all alone, and they don’t need any company. So try to find happiness in solo traveling because there you can explore more places and can experiment with different things.

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    I hope you find this article helpful and by this, I can say that being single is a bit difficult in terms of the norms of society, emotional pressure, financial stability & much more but married life or relationships also have their issues. So, you need to decide what kind of person you are and how you want to live your life. You may also read some other books meant for this topic which says “life is what you make it

    Please mention your valuable comments below and let me know your thoughts about the same and if you prefer to be single or in a relationship.

    Women Empowerment

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    In a country like India where in many parts other than metropolitan cities women’s are not allowed to study, take part in decision making, not allowed to pursue higher education, choosing a profession with late working hours, women empowerment is essential. Women Empowerment is an activity of raising the status of women through proper learning & guidance, bringing issues to light, education, and training. Empowering helps women in taking life decisions with ease and taking significant risks in life, which comes with the confidence, build through empowerment.

    Nowadays the situation has improved a lot as most of the people are educated and became open-minded. But in few areas, some people are educated, but still, they have that old backward thinking for women’s. Women Empowerment not only help their families to have a better and educated future generation but also helps the country a lot. A country with huge population consists of all the genders and gender equality is highly essential.

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    What do you mean by empowerment?

    Empowerment means giving power to someone.In simple language, it is to encourage a person to achieve what he wants to achieve. It includes building self- determination to work for their interest, live a life of his dreams, and be responsible for their own life rather than depending upon someone.

    Why women’s empowerment is essential?

    Every country has a different ratio of women as compared to men. But, in India with a total population of 1.37 billion in which we have approx 950 females per 1000 of males the growth of the country is incomplete without a woman.As, half of the population consists of women. Empowering women means giving power to women so that they can build self-confidence in them to achieve heights. They can stand up for themselves as well as for weak people in the society, helping women to lead a successful life.

    There was a time when women’s were considered very weak physically and mentally as well. But, now the time has changed a lot and women have proved to the society that they are equally equipped and talented as men’s are. A woman is the one who is an idol for a child because a child spends maximum time with his mother and by looking at a woman who is prosperous and filled with lots of quality a child can learn a lot and most important lesson is to respect other women.

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    Women Empowerment in India:

    India is a diverse country with different culture, language, weather condition, and different belief. With so much cultural difference, it is tough to change one’s belief because that’s what it has been taught since childhood to them. In India, women empowerment depend upon many factors like age, social status like caste, education, a geographical location like urban or rural area, etc.

    The government has formed policies on women empowerment on national, state and Panchayat level but in most of the cases, it is not implemented by people which includes gender inequality, lack of mobility to women, no access to education, early marriage, lack of good health facility, no decision making power & violence. We can say that the situation in urban areas in India is much better as compared to rural areas due to the high influence of foreign culture and educated people.

    But, in urban areas situation is still worst where men mistreat women’s, girls are not allowed to be educated, they are not a part of decision making, and sometimes they have to bear violence by their husband’s, parents or in-laws because they are considered very weak in the society.

    Are Women Weak? 

    Why women’s are considered weak? Are they physically not eligible to kick a guy who made her life hell. Or, she is so weak mentally that could not handle loneliness and choose this path for herself?

    No, a woman is not weak, in my opinion. She is one creature of God to whom God has chosen to give birth to another creature. A woman is a mother, sister, wife, daughter who takes care of her family with love and affection.But, if the situation arises she can be as cruel as “Devi Kaali” who is considered as the destroyer of evil forces. No women is physically or mentally weak; it’s just the upbringing which builds this perception in the society.

    If we go with the idea of women empowerment for only urban areas of India, then it’s just an incomplete growth of our country. We have to educate maximum people to let them know that respect women, give them power and, it will help in the country’s growth as well as future growth of family.

    You may read a few articles on women empowerment to have more knowledge about it.

     

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    How can we empower women?

    • Empowering women is possible by giving education to your girls.And, allowing them to study as much as they want to instead of saving for their marriage save for their higher studies.
    • Support women if they are thinking out of the box and push them to achieve heights.
    • Give them importance because they are not less than men. Allow them to take their own decisions and consider their decisions in small and big activities of your life.
    • Help a new mom to take care of her infant as well as to continue her career as men’s do.
    • Most important that never leave a chance to make your woman realize that you support her.

     

    So, as a conclusion, I will say that no country is developed if the women in their society are not free or happy. A country or universe consists of both men and women so we have to go hand in hand rather than just following men’s oriented society. An uneducated woman cannot teach her child how to grow in life. She cannot tell which path to follow, how to respect other woman. We can say that parents are an idol for a child and both parents should be educated to some extent so that they can pass that knowledge to their loved ones.

    If you have any opinion on this topic, then do not forget to share it with me in the comments section. Or, if you have any story to share, then please do so.

    Self Confidence

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    “Self confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings” well said by Samuel Johnson.

    In today’s world self confidence is something which is highly required to deal with many problems and opportunities in life. This means to be sure about your decisions, power and ability to do tasks or handle day to day life. In our daily life we see people with both low and high esteem which comes with time. But self-confidence is really very important to live a happy and healthy life. It helps in feeling motivated, charged, and enthusiastic in every situation.

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    Importance of Self-confidence:

    Self-confidence is very important for every individual. As our technology is growing fast so do people are growing every moment. Lets discuss the importance of this with an example:

    When we enter in school, we are taught in the same way by the teacher as the other students in the class. But, when teacher ask any question only few students are able to raise hands and answer the same. This happens because may be other students don’t know the answer, or some know the answer but not confident enough to raise hands and answer. Specially for those students with low confidence who never raise hands instead of knowing the answer teacher count them in the crowd of below average students.

    So this happens every time in life and to separate yourself from crowd you should have enough self-confidence. As per the studies confidence is helpful in dealing with social problems, depression, good physical and mental health and personal growth.

    Confidence is directly linked with happiness. People with high self-confidence tend to be more happy and satisfied from life as compare to others. Since young age a student with more self- confidence perform better and school and score high marks. An employee with more self-confidence meet targets more easily and have more job satisfaction.

    How to build confidence and self esteem:

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    Building confidence is not one time activity, it takes a lot of time and patience to build confidence in yourself. Sometimes, it is seen that parents works a lot on their child to build their self-confidence by praising their small activities, pushing them to take part in school and other curriculum,which help them to grow better.

    The above mentioned points can even ruin a child. Since childhood a child is appreciated by parents to build their self confidence. Sometimes the self confidence became so high in that child that he is not able to differentiate between good or bad. So, as a parent you should know a border line where to stop. Self confidence should also be in limits otherwise rather than giving benefits, it will take you to the stage of depression.

    As upbringing play a very vital role in building self-confidence but there are few people with low self-esteem in childhood but done wonders in young age. Lets understand this with an example

    Self-confidence Examples:

    Everyone knows “Albert Einstein” as a noble prize winner in 1921 in Physics for discovering law of photoelectric effect. But do anyone know that he was suffering from a problem called “dyslexia” in his childhood?

    In “Dyslexia” a child is not able to catch so quickly as compared to other child. Due to this problem, he was a slow learner, very shy and quiet child. He was so low in self esteem that he had to practice what he wanted to say which is interpreted as stupidity by some people. With such low self esteem he spend all his childhood & his success story is not hidden from anyone. So, through this example you can make out that time is not the same and with practice and believing in yourself you can build self-confidence at any age.

    Confident vs Low-confidence behavior:

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    1. A person who is confidence do what he likes or according to the planning done. However, a non-confident person behaves as per the society. Their behavior and activities change according to what society says and people think of them.
    2. Nobody is perfect and mistakes can be done by anyone. But, a confident person accept his mistake and learn from them.On the other hand, a non-confident person try to hide the mistake or blame others or situation for the same.
    3. A confident person is a risk taker and always willing to try new things. A non-confident person is not interested to take the risk and try to be in a comfort zone.

    Steps required to be confident:

    Building self-confidence is not a five minutes process but yes it is also not as difficult as seems to be. The only key step which is required to be self-confident is to be determined towards your goals, proper planning, distributing the big goals in to tiny achievements and accelerating towards success.

    1. Work for your goals:

    It is extremely important that you should set a goal in life which you really want to achieve and work for it. Make a positive mindset and note down small steps which are required to achieve those goals. Setting goals is very easy task but start working on it and sticking to the same during all ups and downs is a true example of a self confident person.

    2. Remember your achievements:

    If you moving towards a journey of becoming self-confident then it is very important that you should see and appreciate your achievements in life. Success and achievements need a lot of hard work and planning and take time to remember those beautiful moments of your life.Just keep in your mind that “You can win“.

    3. Know your strength:

    Each and everyone of us have their strength and weaknesses so to be successful you need to focus on your strength and work on your weaknesses. Do in which you are good enough and which are your strength and nobody can stop you to achieve that success.

    4. Distribute your big goals in small set of goals:

    After deciding what you want to achieve in life you need to distribute that goals into small steps to achieve the same. This ensure that after every step you are one step ahead of your big goal. By gaining success in each step your self-confidence boost automatically.

    5. Train yourself to be better than others:

    To build self-confidence you need to generate the skills which makes you different from others. Self-confidence comes automatically when you have any special skills or knowledge with you which makes you special and people depend upon you to gain that knowledge. Train yourself so that you can build this kind of special knowledge in yourself.

    So my friends, self-confidence is directly proportionate to success in life. As much success you achieve your self-confidence boost automatically. And, with proper planning and right focus everything is achievable.

    LIFE AFTER DIVORCE

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    “Divorce” is a very small word to listen and we might have said this 100 times to our partner in anger that “I want divorce” but when it actually happens it has many adverse affects on the life of the victim. It may lead to loneliness, depression & other financial issues.

    Sometimes inspite of so many efforts in a marriage it doesn’t work and a couple decides to get separated from each other and start a new life. Sometimes this decision is taken early in the marriage and sometimes it takes years to decide that there is no compatibility in this relationship. As after marriage life changes completely same after divorce life take 360° turn especially if you have a kid.

    Life after divorce is very different for both man and woman. Basically, it’s a situation when you have nobody with you and you feel lonely, unhappy and frustrated about life and this thing became more severe when you are financially dependent upon the other partner. There are ways to come out of this situation and handle this phase with patience. So here are few tips on how to deal with divorce:

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    1. Get more social:

    Divorce is a phase where you feel so lonely in life and isolating yourself is never a solution. Isolation can make your problem even more worst so try to be social in life by meeting friends, go to family gatherings or just sit and chill with your loved ones. This will give you a feeling that there are many people who loves you and care for you.

    2. Financial Stability:

    If you are someone who was financially dependent on your partner so the first thing you need to do after divorce is making yourself financially stable. Find a job or work as a freelance if you have a kid at home so that the work will keep you busy and simultaneously you can earn something out of it. Being financially stable is very important for every woman to gain that respect and confidence in society.

    3. Read Books:

    Sometimes reading motivational books can be a life changing decision. Books works as a best friend in case of depression. By reading them you can feel motivated and keep yourself busy. Read what you like for e.g. motivational, comedy, fictional or murder mystery and it helps you to feel good about the day and in this way instead of thinking anything negative you can pass your time by doing what you like.

    4. Take Professional Help:

    Next situation which may occur in case you are mentally weak with no family support is “Professional help”. Consulting someone from outside is not wrong at all until unless he/she gives you the right advice and show you the right way. Professional helps not only handle your situation wisely but also show you the way on “How to be happy”. You can share your point of view with them and discuss how you feel after divorce, what are the things which makes you feel bad till now as well. Sharing is the best practice when you are feeling lonely in life.

    5. Find yourself:

    When we  are very busy it is very difficult to listen the voice of our soul but, when we are alone for a long time it gives us the pleasure to find the actual person inside us. We know better whether what we are doing is right or wrong so during this bad time of your life instead of loosing hope you should work to groom up yourself. Find things which actually makes you happy, find your weaknesses and work to make them your strength.

    Do what your soul is asking you and make yourself a better person.

    6. Make friends:

    Meeting new people not only helps you to get involved in a new environment but also make sure that you will not discuss your past with them. Making new friends is very helpful in coming out of the stage of depression. New people don’t know what happened in your past so there is less chances that they will ask you any questions about the same. When you talk less about something which makes your depress you tend you feel less bad about it.

    7. Stop thinking a lot:

    When we think too much about our bad memories it tend to drag us more towards it. So when these negative thoughts will come its better to indulge yourself in some other activity instead of keep thinking about it.

    As a human being its natural that your mind will think about those past memories again and make you depress. Think about them for a while and then try to switch and think some moments in your life or if your mind is getting more negative then start doing some other work which involve your brain.

    8. Move on in life:

    Never leave an opportunity to move on life because life not always gives a second chance. If you think that another person who entered in your life after divorce can take care of you and love you after knowing that you are a divorcee then don’t let him/her go. Love is much needed in life be it family or friends and moving on is important in life because life never stop for anyone. Be it a relationship, job or thoughts just move on and let go the past memories which hurts you. You can read related books available on Amazon as “Moving on in life“.

    9. Learn power to forgive:

    Forgiving is the best practice to move on in life and keep yourself satisfied. Divorce is a process of mental stress and the situation which leads to divorce is even more heart breaking. May be you have suffered a lot in that relationship or your partner hurt you physically and mentally. But, dragging those old bad memories with you not only lead to ruin your present but also you will never be able to come out of those memories. So, learn to forgive no matters what that person had done with you but if you will build this power in yourself you will get way to let go things and concentrate on your present.

    10. Take care of yourself:

    After getting divorce “We” as a couple turned into “I” which means that you have to take care of yourself now. Weather you are in a relationship or single you should never depend upon the other person to care for you or fulfill your demands. Taking care of yourself is very important for each one of us because we as an individual knows better what is good for us and in the back of our mind what we want. So, after divorce it is even more important to love yourself and make yourself happy.

     

    So my friends these were few tips which I personally feel should be very helpful in dealing with divorce. Although, this blog is all about divorce and how to deal with it but for all those who is coping up with difficult marriage I would suggest that rather than thinking about divorce first try to solve the issues by keeping your ego aside.

     

    How to be Happy in Life

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    Happiness is not something which can be learned in school and applied in real life but it is a feeling which come from inside. Happiness is a feeling of satisfaction, joy & having a clear mindset in all problems. Every time no one can feel jolly, satisfied so how to be happy in life for a longer period of time?

    “How to be happy in life” is a tricky question but one can achieve this happiness by applying few tips and tricks in daily routine which is going to help them in long run. Being happy is really important for our own health and also for people around us. So lets discuss some practices which we can follow to be happy.

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    1. Feeling Best about yourself:

    Humans get more inclined towards negativity instead of positivity. This phase means that we as a human gets negative thoughts more often then positive one. So, to be happy it is very necessary that we focus on our best things which can be our achievements, our best moments, our strength and other things which makes us feel good about our self.  Everybody have negative aspect of life and to be happy it is very necessary to let go that phase and focus on the positive one.

    2. Change your Thinking:

    Life never stops for anyone its goes on, so it is very important that with time we should change our thinking process and grow our mindset according to the situation. Technology is developing and so do people so we have to walk hand in hand with the time and think according to what the situation is. Rigid mindset always lead to unhappy mind. For example; If you get rejected in an interview then instead of feeling bad about it find out the reason behind it, prepare yourself & learn what is required and appear for the interview again.

    3. Give time to what you love:

    In this busy schedule we are just busy in earning more and more money which is hampering our mindset a lot. We sit in front of the laptop for long hours to finish the target work and never get time to do things which actually of our interest and makes us happy. For earning bread and butter doing 9 to 5 job is necessary but whenever we have time we should never miss a chance to do our hobbies like painting, gardening, dancing or any other thing. This works as a therapy which makes our mind relax and gives us that stamina and power to handle negativity.

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    4. Stop addiction to Social Media:

    Social Media is one of the negative aspect which is has a big impact on our brain. Now a days, most of the people watch YouTube, Facebook and Instagram in their free time which may entertain you for a while but slowly and gradually you will see that your mind started feeling tired and you feel depress about yourself. This happens because social media is full of fakeness and everyone posting on there show their best but you never see their lows. That’s the reason you feel depress that everyone’s life is perfect except you but actually this is not true. So, reduce using this social media and don’t let it impact your life.

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    5. Never Escape from your problems:

    Problem occurs in everybody’s life but you should know how to deal with it. Escaping from problems is even more worst option where the problem seems to be more horrified and bigger as it is in reality.Running away from problems never resolves it and back of the mind you will think about the same and feel bad. So, instead face the problem so that you will feel strong and confident enough. This way you will be able to feel satisfied and strong and take one step ahead of happiness.

    6. Explore what makes you happy:

    As we all are different so the meaning of happiness is different for all of us. For some happiness comes with family & having warm chit chat with them & for others happiness means traveling and explore places. So, to be happy it is very important that you should know the real ways or activities which makes you happy. Indulge in those things more often and you will find yourself more cheerful and happy.

    7. Make your life Goals:

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    Instead of walking in an unknown road you should find the goals of your life and walk on the same road which helps you to achieve that goal. For example: If you are a  person who loves fitness so make your daily plan accordingly which includes diet chart, exercise, going to gym and all other things which is required.

    8. Well wishers are important:

    Now a days, finding a true friend or a true person in your life is very difficult. But being surrounded by such people always makes us feel protected and secure. Parents are always our well wishers, so if you don’t have a true friend then makes your parents your best friend. Believe me there is no better person than parents to share your lows and highs.

    9. Talk to someone:

    Being reserved is good sometimes but when you are unhappy then this reserve nature can be a curse in few cases. So whenever you feel low or bad about your self, you should talk to someone you feel is a good listener. There is a saying that “happiness increases & sadness reduces on sharing with others” which is actually true. In-fact when you share your problems with a genuine person you will feel relieved and relax at the same time.

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    10. Be Grateful for at-least one thing before you sleep:

    We always crib about what bad happened in our life but very few people thank for what good god has given to them. So the best way to feel satisfied about life and happy is that before you go to bed you should think one activity which happened in the entire day for which you are grateful to god. When you compare your life with someone who is better than you then at the same time you should compare your life with someone who is inferior than you and should be always grateful for whatever god has kept for you in his bucket.

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    How to be Happy in Life

    11. Be optimistic:

    Optimistic view helps in solving many big problems in life. It gives you that strength and power to handle worst situation with a peaceful mind. Try to be as optimistic as you can so that people can get motivated from you.

    12. Look positivity in your every experience:

    This point is very difficult to follow but if you are someone who look after the positive side in your each experience then you are very close to that ultimate happiness. There are times when everything which happens with us is bad and worst then instead of getting demotivated and depressed we should think that may be that thing is not good for us that’s why it didn’t happened.Mindset: How Positive Thinking Will Set You Free & Help You Achieve Massive Success In Life 

    So my friends being happy may sound difficult sometimes but with our continuous efforts and positive approach towards life we can definitely be able to pass through with that difficult phase.

     

    TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF

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    Taking care of yourself

    Despite of the fact that which age group you belongs to taking care of yourself is very necessary. There is no age to love and pamper yourself and we should never leave a chance to do that. Sleep, wake up, work and repeat this is what most of people are doing.Life became so busy that nobody has time to care for themselves.

    Self-care is giving the world the best of you, instead of what’s left in you- Katie Reed

    Importance of taking care of yourself

    Well said by Katie Reed as by taking good care of yourself not only make us fit and happy but also we will be able to give our 100% to the other person.

    How to take care of yourself Mentally & Physically

    Both mental & physical aspects are important while taking care of yourself. If you are mentally not healthy then taking physical care of yourself is incomplete and vice versa.

    Start your day with meditation:

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    Meditation not only helps in keeping body active physically but also makes our mind very relax and calm. 5 to 10 minutes of meditation everyday helps in relaxing the body and mind.It also helps to keep away negative thoughts throughout the day and reminds how to be happy. You will feel more positive, energetic & refreshed.

    Take Proper Sleep:

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    On an average a person should take a sleep of approx 8 hours every day. Taking appropriate sleep is very necessary for healthy body and mind. It leads to a stress free day all day long with more active body.

     

    Make Schedule for Whole Day:

    Try to make a schedule of your task for the day in a notebook. This will make sure that you won’t miss anything and also you will get sufficient time for yourself once you complete the entire set task on time.

    Take time to exercise:

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    This is a very important step in daily routine, where we should take out sometime be it 15 minutes to exercise. A healthy body gives birth to happy mind and a little exercise is always good. It helps to keep you stress free all day long. If exercise is not something you like then a brisk walk in the morning is more than enough.

    Read books of your choice:

    Books are always our best friend. Books are a very good way to keep yourself away from social media. Whenever you have time in your hand instead of surfing internet try to read books of your choice. Reading books before sleep helps in better sleep.”How to Stop Worrying & Start Living” is one of the books you can look for on Amazon.

    Give Time to your Hobbies:

    In this busy life we wake up reading tons of e-mails. Our whole day gets over doing household work, meetings, clients & appointments. These things are important for earning bread & butter but taking time for your hobbies is very important. This keeps you motivated for daily work. Take out an hour in a day, a week or a month but try to do things which you love.

    Switch to Healthy Meals:

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    Adhering to this point is very very difficult when Zomato & Swiggy is giving you such lucrative offers like Flat50% off or Buy1 Get1 on food. But believe me friends eating healthy meal really makes a difference. As we grow older our metabolism starts reducing due to which our body is not able to digest such heavy food easily due to which our health gets disturb & we feel bad. If you are a foodie then try to exercise hard if you eat heavy meals.

    Keep yourself away from technology:

    The first thing most of the people do in the morning is checking their phones. Use these gadgets when necessary and avoid using them all the time. Harmful rays from phone not only affect our eyes but have some adverse affect on brain as well.

    Take time to play:

    Playing is a good way to nurture yourself. Take time to play with your children because when we do that we also live our childhood and feel free from all the stress. Playing with your young ones helps in living your childhood again with them and you do things carefree which is really important in life.

    Talk to your loved ones:

    Talking is a good therapy to keep your mind stress free. If you are tensed try to talk to your family, friends & other trust worthy person around you because sometimes we really want someone to listen to us to make us feel better.

    Grooming up session:

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    If you are a man or a woman grooming up session is required where you relax in a salon while taking a good spa. Maintaining yourself is not wrong and it also helps in giving that extra “oomph” to your personality by giving that confident.

    Plan a Holiday:

    Holidays are so required to give a different environment from the busy schedule. If you don’t have a big budget then don’t worry you can plan small trips which are budget friendly and relaxing as well.

    These are my ways of taking care of myself and I find them really effective. Every person should give time to keep themselves happy by doing the above mentioned things so that we can be happy in life and set examples for others.

    HOW TO DEAL WITH DEPRESSION

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    How to deal with Depression

    Depression is still a taboo in our Indian society but my friend “Kuch to log kahenge, logo ka kaam hai kehna”. In my opinion, Depression is as normal as going to office, eating food & other normal routine of life. It’s a situation where a person feels extremely sad, loss interested in almost everything and feels highly demotivated. Why I said that Depression is normal because we humans are filled with lots of emotions and when something bad happens to us for a long time then we lose the power to overcome from that negative situation which leads to depression. In this article we will cover the symptoms and solutions for dealing with depression.

    Every third person in this world is dealing with depression but never discuss this because the world is still not that open minded to understand this issue as a normal circumstance in life. There are few symptoms by which you can make out that you are having Depression.

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    Symptom of Depression:

    1. Loss of interest in almost everything.
    2. Feeling miserable all day long and this feeling stays with you for weeks.
    3. Loss of sleep.
    4. Loss of appetite.
    5. Loss of Interest in Sex.
    6. Feeling demotivated & poor concentration which leads to inefficient thinking & poor decision making.
    7. Thoughts of suicide
    8. Always feeling irritated & angry

    Causes of Depression:

    As every human being has a different state of mind so causes of depression is also different for everyone. But one of the common causes of depression can be genetic factors, which means 30% causes depression is due to genetic influences.

    Life became so stressful now a day that everybody is running after money & everybody wants to be on top. In this race to be superior we give so much stress to our brain which leads to depression sometimes. Similarly, conflict with someone can make us stress which take a toll on our health. Other factors like financial problems, unemployment, childbirth, loosing someone special, and loneliness are some very important factors which lead to depression.

    There could be some medical reasons such as Glandular fever, hepatitis, diabetes, hormones, alcohol, birth control pills & heart or blood pressure conditions which leads to depressive state of mind.

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    How Depression influence our daily life:

    Depression has a big impact on our daily life because a depressed person is always in a negative state of mind and watch the whole world negatively. They are not able to see the good aspect of life which makes them highly demotivated in their work life. This state of mind impact the decision making power where a person is not able to decide what is good for them.

    It’s a very uneasy state of mind where a person is always mentally disturbed about something or the other in life. And this mental disturbance is so high that sometimes a person thinks of ending his life.

     How to seek help?

    In many cases a person come out of Depression with time and once the situation gets better. But in case of major depression professional help is required. There are many available treatments depending upon the severity of the patient which can help in coming out of this situation.

     How to Deal with Depression:

    If you are depressed about something then first of all try to find out the reason of it. For eg. If the reason of depression is loneliness then try to go out in public, make friends, talk to family & friends & try to keep yourself surrounded by good people with whom you can chit chat with free mind. Here are few pointers which will help you in dealing with depression in a certain period of time.

    1. Understand the Reason:

    You need to understand the real reason of your depression whether it is loneliness, loosing someone, financial issue or health issues.

    2. Stop Intake of too much caffeine:

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    This point seems to be unrealistic but is very important in dealing with depression. Study says that taking too much caffeine in the form of tea, coffee or other drinks is harmful for health and leads to depressive state of mind.

    3. Talk:

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    Talking is the best therapy to come out of depression. Choose someone really trust worthy and positive to talk your problems with. This person can be anybody from family, friends or office colleague. When you share your problems with someone you feel relax. In short, stop keeping those issues and problems in your mind but just share them with someone.

    4. Keep yourself Busy:

    An idle mind is a devil’s workshop. Keeping yourself busy is the best way to be apart from those negative thoughts. If you busy working on something especially what you love to do then you will feel better.

    5. Take out time for what you love:

    Instead of pleasing others try to take out time for yourself. Take out time for the things you always want to do like painting, gardening or dancing whatever you like. Giving importance to you own self is very important because if you are unhappy you can never make the world happy.

    6. Meet Therapist:

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    In case of major depression take an appointment from therapist and talk to them. As a professional, a therapist is able to understand and resolve your problems in much better way. And in case you are not comfortable to share your issues with your dear ones then a therapist is a must so that at least you have someone to listen to you.

    7. Reading:

    Sometimes reading can do wonders to your thought process. Reading positive books from very experienced people can help in feeling better and have a positive approach towards life.When you read these kinds of books you started feeling “Oh I was worried for some petty things however, people have struggled a lot to be in that position”.

    8. Social Media:

    Nobody is going to tell you this but actually Social Media is the biggest reason of depression. When you are feeling bad about something you feel like watching “face book” just to divert your mind but when you see posts people going to Paris, other got job in “Google” then you started feeling miserable about yourself. So try to keep away from social media when you are not happy.

    9. Setting Goals:

    Set goals for daily activities by writing them and try to achieve that goal by end of the day.

    10. Do not lie awake for more than about 30 minutes:

    Sometimes in depressing state of mind we have to go though many sleepless nights. But instead of lying down in bed all night without sleeping it’s better to utilize that time in other relaxing activities like listening music or other useful things

    Depression is just a phase of life which will get over soon. We as a person should do efforts for our self or other person dealing with depression instead of thinking of ending life. Ending life is never a solution & life is never easy to live and contains a lot of struggle and efforts to be happy. If life gives you lemon you should make lemonade and try to find someone whose life has given them vodka, and have a party. Try to be happy if not for yourself but for your loved ones.

    DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE

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    In my opinion, difficult people are the one with whom you don’t feel comfortable, who show extra care on your face but always criticize you on your back, who find negative in all the things & who never value your inputs and think that they are master of all traits. Dealing with difficult people needs patience and tactics.

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    Who these difficult persons are and how they affect your life?

    These people can be anyone from friends, relatives, husband, wife even sometimes parents or any office colleague as well. No person is bad but what makes them difficult is the difference of opinion, lack of understanding & most of the time our own inability to bear them.

    These people affect our life in many ways because you have your set goals in life, your own dreams which you want to fulfill but these people somehow act as a hurdle in those dreams and goals. I explain this with certain examples for dealing with difficult people.

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    Friends:

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    Friends are normally very supportive but in some cases they can also be difficult. It happens when they start showing off on anything inspite of being real which makes you to rethink about your friendship because friendship is all about sharing things and be real to each other.

    Parents:

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    Although, parents are the only one who understand you the most even more than you. But, due to generation gap sometimes they can seems to be difficult in the eyes of children who are highly influenced by social media and friends.

    Relatives:

    In most cases relatives are difficult as they start comparing you with others growing up fast in life. You can never share your honest opinion with them because in most of the cases either they let you down or try to correct you with their own opinion. This is not wrong but we should respect each other’s opinion.

    Office Colleague/ Boss:

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    We have a very competitive relationship with our Office colleagues and boss so there is always a chance that they seems very difficult to us. Being a competitor there is always a race going on between both the parties and most of the time they seems difficult to us.

    How to deal with difficult people?

    No matter what how much these people annoy you there is always a way to deal with them. The ways to deal with them may seems little difficult or unnatural but believe me using these tips and tricks you can achieve whatever you wish in life and can get out of any difficult situation or people to be precise.

    1. Stay Calm:

    Whenever we get angry we tend to take wrong decisions in the heat of the moment. Rather than jumping to a quick decision try to be calm, take a deep breath and take decision wisely. In this case, you will be able handle the situation diplomatically rather than emotionally which most of time fails.

    2. Stop Reacting:

    It is not necessary to react on everything. If something is teasing you and you are not happy to listen or bear a person but you have to then develop a quality of not reacting to a shit. By reacting to a shit you will be giving more importance to a person and making yourself more frustrated.

    3. Listen:

    As I said that not everyone is bad, so there may be a case that the person whom you find difficult is going through a bad time which made him/her so negative in life. Try to be polite and listen to what he is saying, may be by doing that somehow you can help him/her in expressing their thoughts.

    4. Stop Judging:

    The English idiom “Never judge a book by its cover” which means one shouldn’t prejudge the worth or value of something by its outer appearance. If a person seems negative, talk bad about you, or always in a race to pull you down then try to understand the reason behind it. There must be a reason of such hatred.

    5. Ignore:

    If the situations is uncontrollable then ignoring things is a best thing to do. When we can’t change a situation or person than the best way to be happy is ignoring. We can’t keep everyone happy so instead of making efforts on someone else try to ignore things and concentrate on your goals. This is easiest and best way to deal with difficult people.

    6. Talking:

    This point is specifically for parents in case due to generation gap or misunderstanding we feel that they are difficult. Parents can never think bad for their children but yes as they are experienced people so they are over possessive for their children and try to stop them from doing things which they feel is not safe or right. If you feel your parents doesn’t understand you then talking is the best therapy which both of you will love and feel relax as this is relationship with strong bond

    7.  Be proud of yourself for bearing an uncomfortable situation like a pro:

    Not everyone is big hearted enough to bear an uncomfortable situation or a person who talks shit about you. Never forget to pat yourself in the back of your mind because you behaved so maturely.

    8. Be Diplomatic:

    Diplomacy is another synonym of ignoring. Instead of showing that you are not happy with the person standing in front of you behave diplomatically which shows that you are mature enough to handle worst situations.

    9. Be Positive:

    Sometimes being with negative people who always crib about everything in life you also become like them. If you are friends with these people then instead of listening to their negative talks you try to make them positive by talking about how beautiful life is. Think positive and thank god for what resources you have. Make a habit to read novels and books.

    10. Look yourself & Rethink:

    Last point but highly important because it is very important to look yourself and your own behavior before putting fingers on others. It may be possible that we are overacting on something because we are upset on some other problem in life and we misunderstood someone who is actually not as difficult as we think in our mind.

    So friends, this is my personal thoughts about “How to dealing with difficult people” and the above pointers are something which I apply in my personal life as well. Try to be positive in life and think that nobody is bad even if someone is actually bad because this thought will always keep you motivated and happy even if how bad situation is around you.

    If you have any suggestion on dealing with difficult people than please do comment and share your opinions, I will add that point as well 🙂

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